Running my business, which is essentially helping you with your self-development, is a strange thing. The only person who chooses what I do and how I do it, is me. When I start work each day, is up to me, and when I finish is usually down to when I need to pick the children up from school! So, whilst there is a structure to my life, the only structure to running my business if when I devise one, and actually stick to it.
2015 has been a very interesting year: I’ve worked with more clients than in any of the previous 10 years of being a Wellbeing Coach and Mentor. I’ve delivered more Stress Management Workshops, worked with more clients on a personal basis and opened a second “Wellbeing for Business” affordable coaching group. A few weeks ago I ran one of my “Take Back Control of Your Life” live events and the 6 ladies who attended have been enjoying implementing their key changes and having some life changing conversations.
I also hope I’ve helped more people through my writing, whether it’s this newsletter, my blog posts earlier this year, or simply my Facebook posts. The reality is that I will never know how many people I have reached; I will never know all the support found, all the empowerment reached or all the changes finally activated because of something I “put out there” that was found at the right time by someone who needed it at that very moment. All I can do is follow my intuition and share what’s in my heart at that point and trust that those who would benefit will find it.
The other side of business is the logical side. The marketeers who tell people in my line of work that you need to put out so many pieces of information to every sales offer you make. The endless promises that if you follow this particular plan you will get so many clients, or get rich quick. The adverts that tell you that THIS method will help a heart-centred entrepreneur like me to build the business that I dream of.
I’ve tried some of the methods over the years. After all this isn’t just a hobby; this is my passion. My passion is to work with as many people as I can to empower them. To turn my passion into a sustainable lifestyle business – well, there must be a proven method, right? The thing is, I have tried to follow these ideas that are presented as absolute facts, but they certainly haven’t delivered the promised results to me. Naturally, I have justified this to myself, because all I want to do is follow a logical marketing plan, or proven method, to make sure that people like you do find out about me, but maybe because they’re not aligned with my heart or maybe because I don’t really feel ready, I don’t set them up fully, or I miss out what could have been a crucial action without realising. Or I start off “gung ho” and lose momentum – or worse, try to keep powering through when I’ve lost heart, or energy.
My passion is to empower as many people as possible in the most respectful way for them and for those around them. If you’re looking for a coach to tell you to “leave your husband now,” I’m not the coach for you. If you’re looking to make “6-figures in your work this year,” then I’m not the coach for you. If you’re looking for someone to tell you to tell your boss where to go (!), then I’m not the coach for you.
I passionately believe that you will grow more and find more self-respect by working through the issues that you have in a way that is considerate for everyone concerned. I support you to “mend your marriage” not break it, and whilst my clients do increase their business numbers, whether it’s clients, turnover, profit, whatever, it’s rarely overnight because working with me is all about the underlying sustainable Wellbeing; it’s not the “ jump off a cliff and see if you can fly” sort of approach. If you do need to leave your job we work out a supportive plan and tactics that work for you and you can leave with your “head held high.” If you want to mend your marriage, I will gently help you understand how to do this in a way that sets you both on a journey independently and yet together. If you do want to grow your business we form a plan that fits with your skills, your dreams and balances the needs of your family.
I will help you understand what stress is and how it has been affecting you and those you love. I am passionate about putting you back in the centre of your life, which gives those around you the opportunity to be at the centre of theirs and not stepping on your toes, or giving you a wide berth.
I will support you to find strength that you never knew you had, and empower you to find effective ways of communicating and acting so that you know you are in control; and give you focus so that you can work towards the goals that set you alight.
Yes, I mostly work with women, but about 10 % of my clients over the 10 years I have been doing this as a career are men. I don’t work with children, but I will support you with tools, techniques and knowledge so that you can be the parent you want to be. I work with you if you are ready to “Take back control of your life.”
I started writing this email because I wanted to say that over the next few months I am going to be taking some extended time to reflect and consolidate. What that means for you is that I can’t tell you that I’m going to write an email every week, or that I’m going to release another 6 radio shows– or even that you’ll get to see me more on video (which many of you have told me you’ve watched.) I can’t tell you what I’m going to do or how I’m going to be in contact with you because I just don’t know. People always say that you need to keep contacting “potential clients” regularly for them to choose to work with you. I won’t commit to doing that until I know what is going to empower me next.
Besides, I have greater faith in you and know that if you want to connect with me, if you want to explore working with me, then you will find a way to contact me.
What I can tell you is that I’m still here, even if I’m not landing in your inbox, or popping up on Facebook. Each week until the end of January 2016, my Technical V.A. has scheduled “Wednesday Wellbeing Words” to still arrive in your inbox. So you will still receive a mid-week reflection from me until then at least.
If you want to get in touch at any time, then please do. I would love to hear from you. The step back that I’m taking is away from trying to consciously market my work to really focus my time on supporting my own development and my clients who are working with me.
Perhaps this email has helped you decide that if I’m taking action to help myself then it’s time that you took some action too. Is it time to find out how I can help you, your business or your family? Or perhaps you think that I might be able to help someone you know? If either of those are the case then email firstname.lastname@example.org or contact the office on 0845 643 9668 and we will arrange a time for us to talk and explore further. There is no cost for this and absolutely no obligation. Just an opportunity to find out if you can find the support you need from me.
Your partner in wellbeing,