Is it always you who does the household jobs?
Is it just quicker than asking the kids to join in?
Are there benefits of encouraging your family to look after your home?
Should you expect everyone to contribute?
My 2 boys aged 7&8 have been encouraged to help around the house ever since they were toddlers! They do all sorts, including tidy their belongings, lay the table (the cutlery is in a drawer that they can reach), load and empty the washing machine and put their clean and dry clothes away. My 7 year old loves doing the vaccuming and has done since he was 5.
It might well be easier in the short-term to do things yourself – but what kind of adult do you want your child to develop into?
4 key things to remember:
1) They will not do the job in the same way, or to the same standard, as you do for many years. Remember to let go of any expectations that they will do it as well as you can.
2) Curb any desire to re-do the job after they have done it or they will stop helping – after all, why would they bother if you’re going to do it anyway?
3)If you want to improve how and what they are doing, do it alongside of them and coach them how to do the job. Firstly, show them how you do it; then do it with them, then be with them whilst they do it.
4) Keep a warm and encouraging attitude and it won’t take long before they are getting on and doing things without being asked!
Responsible Parenting is one of my main passions! (Thankfully, as I have 2 young boys.) It’s also one of the biggest issues my clients have – after all the responsibility of being a parent is tremendous. Often we end up getting stuck in a rut and not knowing how to improve our situation at home. A little objective help can go a long way!