Some people love goal setting; others hate it; yet others just don’t get it and some have never even heard of it.
Do you set goals?
Do you set them formally – write them down, follow a ritual?
Do you “Wish” them – yes, it’s a form of goal setting! (Definitely be responsible with what you wish for!)
If you want to know how to set SMART goals, then, please get in touch. Setting goals definitely has a place in supporting Wellbeing.
However, this time of year is not the most supportive for setting goals, or getting started, or finding motivation, so why not try something a little different?
What is your focus going to be? If you start off knowing what your focus is, you will find it much easier to live with that aim in mind. A focus gives you an awareness, but not a rigidity. A focus allows you to be flexible and still work towards something that means something to you. Once you’ve set your focus you might go ahead and set some smaller goals that work towards the bigger focus – or you might not. The important thing is to do what feel right for you.
OK! How do I set my focus?
Firstly, give yourself some time and space – you may need 5 minutes or 50; just do whatever is right for you.
Secondly, get yourself into a “calm inside” state.
You may find it useful to do some deep breathing, or you may want to listen to some music, relax in a bath, go for a run…. whatever works for you.
Then ask yourself “What is my overall focus for 2012?”
The answer will present itself! You might feel it, hear it, instinctively know it, see it, become aware of it. It might be a word, a phrase, a sentence or a picture! The key is to trust.
How do I know if the answer is really my focus?
Once you have it, then “play” with it; say it, hear it, write it – how does it make you feel? For some people they get really excited; for others, it’s a calm assuredness – it all depends on you in the first place. If it doesn’t “feel” right, then try something else – that will either show you that your first answer was the right focus, or that you have a better one, one that really makes you feel excitement!
One of my 2011 breakthrough clients was having one of her follow up support sessions and I was talking to her about setting her focus for 2012. “Aha!” she said, and then followed on shyly with “When I was out running the other day, “A Year of Me” popped into my head.” Now, she was a little embarrased by this; it felt like she’d gone all egotistical. However, when we discussed it, she realised that it wasn’t her ego that was telling her that her focus was to be “A Year of Me,” it was a clear decision that would help her continue to enjoy the fantastic life she had been able to create after I coached her through the Breakthrough & Support process.
Core Focus Ideas
“My focus is……”
Balance / Foundation / Energy / Love / Self-development / Study / Reading / Communication / Business Building / Career Progress / Family / House …. whatever comes up is right for you.
You may want to add a few words to make it real for you, or you may be happy with your “focus” just as it is.
Once you have it, just let it be for a few days and see what comes up next.