An example of how having positivity can help you to understand the reasons behind emotions, leading to a more positive outcome.
One of my clients was having some issues with her husband and he was being really grumpy. He was finding life really difficult since a period of illness and although he had gone back to work, he was still under a lot of stress and life was hard.
Eventually the couple had a very big conversation; it was a really deep conversation, which was difficult but necessary. At the end the husband needed some space, which he went to give himself and which they had both agreed to.
When he came back in, he gave his wife a bunch of flowers and he said ‘I’m really sorry I was grumpy’. It was at this point that my client’s positive outlook and deeper understanding (things which we have been working on) came into practise. In line with the Core Sense teachings, she knew that it was not the surface emotion that should be responded to but the deeper issue. She told him, ‘you’re not grumpy. Grumpy is when you don’t have a reason to be so upset. You are processing some big periods of change and this is perfectly fine’.
The point of this is to illustrate the importance of going back through things and seeing what perspective is in this situation. What is the deeper meaning behind situations and how can you support these?
Taking time to reflect on what has happened each day in a positive way, enables you to better approach situations that may have otherwise been too challenging.